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Publicado: Saturday 25 de April de 2026, 14:11 Hello, visitor! Article about meeting a nice guy: We’ve all heard the adage that “nice guys finish last,” and to be honest, it’s usually true. But the big question is: Why? 10 big differences between “nice guys” and “good men” Good men finish FIRST. ENTER THE SITE We’ve all heard the adage that “nice guys finish last,” and to be honest, it’s usually true. But the big question is: Why? I used to ask myself this a lot, because I was one of them. I did everything I thought women (girls, at the time) would’ve wanted. I was respectable, and “ nice ,” and waited patiently… just long enough for other guys to ask them out and miss my chance. I’d miss chances at dating, at opportunities, at career moves, at reaching life goals, in social situations… As I got older and learned the principles of attraction and social dynamics, all of my mistakes were glaring. If only I’d had the guidance to break free from the negative cycles back then. When I learned how to be a good man rather than a nice guy, everything changed. Here are 10 key differences between the two: 1: Good men are direct in communication. Nice guys never take a position. Nice guys tend to walk on eggshells when they communicate because of a lack of self worth and confidence in who they are, and therefore what they’re saying. They’re always concerned about losing someone’s attention, or pissing them off, or saying something that’ll get them rejected. As a result, they either don’t say anything at all, or timidly say it with filler words or in a way that sounds like they’re asking for permission. Instead of saying: “I was just wondering if you wanted to go out…” Say something like: “I’d be honored to take you to dinner.” or “I’d like to take you out to dinner.” Practice this in your daily life. Think about ordering a drink or a coffee. Instead of saying: “May I have a venti double triple vanilla espresso thingamabob?” Say: “ I’d like a venti double triple vanilla espresso thingamabob, please.” Start getting in the habit of using intentional language that sounds more direct and precise. You can do this while still using pleasantries and sounding polite, it’s not about being forceful or rude. People who are confident sound sure of themselves. They’re not running around all day asking for permission. They calmly tell the world what they’d like with certainty, and they do it respectfully. Women are not attracted to men who sound unsure of themselves. If YOU aren’t sure about you, how can SHE be sure about you?2: Get clear on who you are as a man. I’m not talking about your career, or where you live, or what you drive. I’m talking about who you are if you take all of those things away. What are the causes you’re passionate about? What are you willing to fight for? Where does your mind wander to when you’re alone? What are your big long-term goals and dreams? What is it that propels you out of bed every morning? The problem with nice guys is that they spend so much time trying to make everyone else happy that they never stop to ask themselves what they want. I’m not talking about being selfish, I’m talking about being self aware. One of my biggest challenges growing up was focusing so much on getting acceptance and validation from others that I never knew how much I needed it from myself. As a result, I got it from neither. See — the most attractive men aren’t the ones who are worried about being attractive. They’re the ones who are pursuing the things that light their souls on fire. Waking up every day and doing something that fulfills them, creating a life of meaning and impact. They’re living their lives on purpose, by purpose, and for purpose. That is what guides them forward and keeps them on track because they are CLEAR on who they are and what they want. It leaves no space for negative external influences nor self-sacrifice for the sake of someone or something that isn’t actually good for them. Cultivating and solidifying your own identity that sets you on a path aligned with you accomplishes two things: It immediately puts you around more people who share your interests and increases your chances of meeting someone you’re compatible with. It helps YOU create a life that YOU are passionate about regardless of whether or not you meet someone along the way. 2: Good men face rejection. Nice guys avoid it. Go get rejected more often. Nice guys spend so much time avoiding rejection like the plague that they never actually experience it. If that sounds like a good thing , you might be a victim of Nice Guy Syndrome. Rejection makes you stronger and teaches you what you’re doing wrong. Facing it head-on makes you more resilient and helps you take bigger risks because you’ll have a realization along the way: Rejection is not the end of the world. In fact, sometimes it redirects you on to a better path and saves you from going down a road you shouldn’t be walking in the first place. There aren’t any tricks or magic pills to getting over this fear, the truth is you just need to go do it. Start asking for discounts for no reason at all. Apply for jobs that are above your level. Reach out to icons in your industry and start a conversation. Send a (polite and respectful) message to a woman you’re attracted to. Start flexing the muscle of taking more risks and stretching your comfort zone. The more you get used to doing this, the easier it will become next time, until the risk itself is a habit and you’re consistently moving forward because of it. 3: Good men are focused on being KIND, not “nice.” Think about all of the people you consider to be “nice guys.” What qualities do they have that you really admire? Odds are, when you think of nice guys, you think of people who are passive, good listeners, do everything for people around them, and can get along with anyone because they seem to mesh into any group. Think about what this really means. It means they are so unclear on their own identity that they simply mold themselves to their surroundings. Do you really know who this person is? What they stand for? What their values and beliefs are? Probably not, because they don’t express those things out of fear of being judged or pissing someone off. Social rejection is the ultimate fear of the “nice guy,” which is why he doesn’t do anything to risk it. Ironically, this is the surest path to that very rejection because he will never be fully accepted by any group. How could he be? Meet a nice man Where to meet cute guys Where can i find a nice man Meeting a good guy Where can i meet a nice guy

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